I don't like discussing this issue with some "priviledged" people, who either have a very relaxing career or a lot of free time to spend with their parents when they come.
how about just a normal employee who needs to work 40 hours a week and may not afford/don't have like 40 days holiday each year to flight back China. And my parents are quite old already and they don't speak English/dutch..
I believe most of Chinese have the same condition as I have, so I prefer to hear some opinion from who actually have the problem..!