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How to romance a Chinese girl...


"You'll have a new Dutch boyfriend within two weeks for sure," one of my closet girlfriends Jie said to me before I left China for Holland. "But be careful with them, their love is intense but short." Is that true? I really don't know...because nothing romantic or sexy has happened to me since I arrived in the Netherlands seven months ago. And it seems like my mother has asked me the same question hundreds of times since: "Honey, any romance?" But every time I just have to disappoint her again and again by replying, "Nope, nothing...." But I can't understand why not, after all, I'm pretty, smart, easy going...so why am I still alone, while every one of my former classmates back in China seems to have found one or another boyfriend? I'm not sure what's going with you young Dutch guys, or the students in TU Delft in general for that matter, because in China it's quite common to see student couples on campus, walking hand-in-hand, sitting side-by-side in the library and even kissing mouth-to-mouth outside the girls' dormitory before the dormitory door closes for the night at midnight. I mean, there are even signs saying 'NO FEEDING' on Chinese university canteen tables! But here in TU Delft, everything's quite different. I've got classmates here who are dating each other, everybody knows they're a couple, but you never see them together on campus! While on the hand, I have a male and female classmate who are always together, do everything together, even stayed in the same hotel room when we went on a class trip, yet he's married and she has a boyfriend! Strange...
Everybody here's so damn busy with their own business...fast walking, fast talking, fast eating (two pieces of bread with a slice of cheese in between, eaten on the train?)...even fast fucking ? Maybe it's just that young people nowadays, boys and girls, are all afraid of getting involved in a relationship or having to make some kind of commitment? "Can I still travel around the world for eight months if I have a boyfriend?" an Australian classmate said, sharing her worries with me. Young people love to live this fast way of life nowadays, so what Dutch guy will to spend months romancing a Chinese girl? Although it's true that there are some 'fast' Chinese girls, like Mu Zimei , who wrote about her sexy experiences with 52 guys, it's still the case in China that most Chinese girls are very conventional...there's normally no chance for a guy to bring a Chinese girl back home to bed after one hour of chatting in a bar! Dating first before starting a relationship, rather than first having sex together, is still the norm. So boys, if you got your eye on an Asian princess, first invite her out for dinner...or even better, to a Chinese restaurant...buy her some flowers...show your interest in learning Chinese and ask her to teach you some. Remember, Chinese girls are normally not willing to approach a guy first. Generally, we're pretty shy, waiting for the guy to make the first move, so it's you who has to take the first step forward. And be patient, give her enough time to get to know you better. She'll probably need more time than a western girl. And then do your thing...make love to her in your intensive Dutch way...just don't end it so quickly!

'Asian Girl' Yi Ya's next column will appear in Delta 16

先不谈她的英文水平如何，但这的确反应点什么......

Readers respond to 'Asian Girl's' column




The English Page was thrilled to receive an email bag full of reactions to Yi Ya's (the 'Asian Girl') last column, 'How to Romance a Chinese Girl' (Delta 12). Reader responses ranged from thoughtful and outraged, to loving and downright dirty, like this email from Wey Tang, self-proclaimed 'Asian Boy': "It seems that your [Yi Ya's] current life is a little devoid of a bit of good loving from the male species...perhaps I can fix that for you. I can give you some good loving, long and hard, and I don't only mean in terms of time..."
  W. Vanpee, was more gentlemanly: "There are a number of reasons why romance is a rare commodity at this little Venice of the North. For one, the complexity and refinement of the female character are beyond the scope of most (Dutch) men's comprehension. If you really want to hit the jackpot...forget about Dutch men. Find someone with a similar urge for adventure...find a foreigner! So what do you say? Monday evening, eight o'clock, on top of the library? I'll bring you a flower."
  PhD student Yan Wang's email subject line read 'some words from my heart': "At first glance, I don't appreciate the column's title; reading in detail, I feel disgusted." Wang seemed to think Yi Ya was speaking for all Chinese women: "I don't think her points can stand for most Chinese students.... Of course, you may provide a space for her to speak freely (for this is a free country); however, please don't emphasize the so-called 'Asian girl' as her label. I'm afraid readers, especially Dutch readers, will be misled by her voices." Wang added: "I feel shame on the writer."
  Wey Tang - of the "good loving, long and hard" line above - was also "simply quite shocked and dismayed" that the column included a profanity - the 'f-word': "For all the years that I've been reading printed materials, I've never come across such disturbing behavior and feel very strongly about the editing which occur for Delta....Perhaps a little censorship might be wise for Delta... such words don't belong in a university newsletter, which may compromise the moralities of the university's student body. I hope the editorial board will consider my plea and not let the morals of such a reputable university as TU Delft slip into the oblivion of an abyss, which we might not be able to recover from."
  Lin Luo, a Chinese woman working at TU Delft, wrote:  "What Yi Ya wrote is in a way true - imagine due to our cultural background Chinese women have been conservative for centuries, and now, with the rapid development of our economy, girls (actually also guys) get confused a bit in between the old traditions and the modern ways of living....More importantly, I think most Asian girls are already not like what she described...at least me and some of my close friends don't follow the 'dinner-flower-learning Chinese-going to bed' procedure. However, I'm not a typical Chinese. My boyfriend always calls me a 'broken Chinese'."
  Finally, Plamen Manoilov didn't like Yi Ya's criticism of the Netherlands' fast way of living: "You don't have the right to criticize the way of living of university students and Dutch people generally. Try first to understand them, and only after that - complain. I can understand why the Dutch guy, who comes from Amsterdam every day by train, works hard and after work hurries to catch his train home. I know a Dutch woman who eats very fast. She finishes eating long before me and waits until I finish my food. I once I asked her: 'Why do you eat so fast?' She said she used to work at a company where your salary depended on the work you've done. So, people ate fast in order to do more work.... I do understand and love these 'doing everything fast', hard-working Dutch people." (DM)

不了解荷兰人的文化背景就乱发牢骚，还写这样的别扭的英文文章，真是丢人！！！

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"Life is always on the way to somewhere. A year ago I left

这文章自打去年年初就有了吧...

看起来，这个姑娘来荷兰就是找男人的

起码一年了，去年看的时候就一肚子火

这在TUD的校报上就有啊!

新的打工方法！